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Post by AgHorizonFilm on Oct 12, 2005 16:12:40 GMT -5
Yeah, don't compromise what you have already started.
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Post by taechunsa on Oct 12, 2005 17:32:22 GMT -5
Also, there are actually some advantages to being married in college. Really? I usually think otherwise. OK other than more study time, are there any other advantages? Money is a controversial one, but for my wife and me it was cheaper to be married. We were both paying rent, utilities, food, and gas to constantly drive to the others place. The sex is always a plus. Amazing how much easier it is to relieve tension. ;D This also would likely hold true even if you are sexually active premaritally, given the social stigma with premarital sex and the possible complications with premarital sex. It gives you both some time to just be a married couple. One of the smartest things that my wife and I did was wait to have children. A lot of the complications that I have seen in friend’s and relative’s marriages stem from the fact that they had children very early in the marriage (this doesn’t always cause problems). My wife and I were able to do things as a married couple that could have been problematic as single dating or engaged adults and impossible with young children. Things such as both being exchange students for a year overseas, such as traveling for a month across Asia, such as just packing up one day and going on a cross country trip for two weeks. Now granted, couples could just as easily do this if they married after college, but that would also mean putting off children for those extra years. I honestly wonder why people see being married in college as a detriment. I cannot think of a single problem that being married in college caused. In fact, as I said earlier, being married helped in many ways. If my wife and I would not have been married I seriously doubt that either of us would have ever been exchange students. So the question that I pose in reply is what are the disadvantages to being married in college? Sophomore year of college is a compromise that puzzles me a bit. Despite Kim and Ron knowing each other as best friends for a long time, I am a big supporter of longer engagements. There are things that they will learn about each other in the intervening years of dating and engagement that will make married life easier. It also allows for them to slowly ease their way from platonic friends to life long mates. There will be some hiccups and bumps which the opportunity to separate and reassert their own identities will help with. As they grow closer these instances will lessen and when they do the assertion will be easier without major separation. However, there are certain carnal benefits to marriage that I just can’t see them reasonably being able to justify putting off. As I asked above, what are the disadvantages to being married in college? None that I can think of. So why wait until after college? I also have to admit to a bit of bias since this is what I did. Well, I might've gone for it in my own sophomore year stories, if we'd done this poll sooner, but I'm already halfway through the year and Shego's pregnant. Having Kim and Ron get married at about the same time as Shego's baby gets born seems to be a waste of perfectly good plot elements by cramming them all in at once, leaving less for later. So I think I'll stick to the concept I'm used to, marriage after college graduation (a choice nearly tied), unless some urgent reason comes up to do it sooner. While I would have loved to see them married in your story. I cannot say that I disagree with your intent to stick with your original plan. I learned a long time ago that to write a good story you have to make sure that it is your story and not everyone else’s story.
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Post by Forlong on Oct 13, 2005 19:29:06 GMT -5
It's odd that when I did the "when will they get engaged" poll, most people voted for after college. I guess I swayed some people.
Why is marriage in college frowned upon?
Sadly because of "free sex". People don't feel that they need to show commitment. This has bought STDs, horrendous abortions (now you know that I'm pro-life), and a social condemnation for true virtue. It brings nothing but missery. Please, teach your kids to be honorable.
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Post by Panther on Oct 13, 2005 19:48:02 GMT -5
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Post by taechunsa on Oct 13, 2005 20:50:03 GMT -5
You know what he meant. But it was kind of funny. ;D
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Post by Panther on Oct 13, 2005 20:57:31 GMT -5
Well, yeah, but still...
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Post by AgHorizonFilm on Oct 13, 2005 21:05:46 GMT -5
oh well
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Post by felixrenton on Oct 13, 2005 21:52:21 GMT -5
In the fanfic i'm writing. (No, it's not done, so don't ask.) They get engaged really quick, but marry three years later. that's what i say.
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Post by ShegoFan on Apr 18, 2007 23:25:46 GMT -5
I think some years after sollage because they need to get jobs and all that
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Post by Comrade_Chin on Apr 18, 2007 23:27:10 GMT -5
They dont seem to be the I want to marry quickly type so i say few years after college
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Post by slicknickshady on Apr 18, 2007 23:41:41 GMT -5
When i think about how Kim & Ron or Phil & Keely should get married i come up with either the summer after they graduate college with a bachelors or the summer after they graduate middleton community college or pickford community college before they move on (transfer) to finish there bachelors degree at the 4 year college so they can live together and sleep together without lloyd, barb, mandy, mr and mrs stoppable and or possible being concerned. I have no problem with premarital sex and think kim/ron and phil/keely would have sex before marriage im just saying so there parrents wont be against them living together in an off campus apartment. I'm not saying they will get married just to have sex. I'm not and thats wrong. It should be a given that they are getting married because they love each other but it's how they pick the date where they put concerns about how there parents feel in deciding the date.
Then thing about Kim/Ron and Phil/Keelys love is it's more then just sex. They will get married because they are destined to be together and how when they smile at each other it's just as great and passionate as the sex they have.
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Post by Ot@ru on Apr 19, 2007 5:11:07 GMT -5
Few years after college...If they get married I'm afraid they're not ready...you know to be parents thing...
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Post by teztor123 on Apr 19, 2007 5:51:44 GMT -5
LOL!! No choice for Kim dumps him when they get to college!
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Post by Commander Argus on Apr 19, 2007 6:52:34 GMT -5
Engaged the moment they're both 18 (I've always felt that Kim is slightly older than Ron, perhaps by just a couple months)
Married the summer after college (I had them living together their senior year of college)
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Post by Comrade_Chin on Apr 19, 2007 9:50:28 GMT -5
So what if they were studying in different colleges where Kim is overseas while Ron is in Upperton somewhere not near Kim.What would be your suggestion or idea Commander Argus.
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Post by ninjanaco on Apr 19, 2007 10:03:04 GMT -5
I don't know when Kim and Ron will get married. Sometime after high school, that's for sure. Whether in college or after, I don't know. Depends on the situation.
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Post by Ashley Benlove on Apr 19, 2007 10:31:28 GMT -5
Right after college, I chose. I'm one of those "EDUCATION COMES FIRST, ROMANCE SECOND" types. But, honestly, they could marry anytime and I'd be happy.
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Post by Commander Argus on Apr 19, 2007 12:43:42 GMT -5
So what if they were studying in different colleges where Kim is overseas while Ron is in Upperton somewhere not near Kim.What would be your suggestion or idea Commander Argus. Didn't do that in my fics, and really, I can't see that happening. When the rubber hits the road, I bet one of them is going to move heaven and earth so they can be together.
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Post by The Yetimonster on Apr 19, 2007 13:32:53 GMT -5
I'd naturally assume that they'd get hitched once out of college. I wouldn't be surprised if they got married...they've known each other longer than most married couples I know anyway.
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Post by Scoutcraft Piratess on Apr 19, 2007 18:01:47 GMT -5
Junior year. Because everyone at my school got married junior year.
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