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Post by kimburnpotts on Dec 9, 2007 18:55:39 GMT -5
What do you think the best way to deal with someone like Bonnie would be?
Personally, while I don't blame Kim a bit for getting annoyed at Bonnie, I think that the best way to get her to stop acting the way she does would to be either to ignore her or act super-sweet, as though her jibes didn't bother her... Like when Kim told Bonnie all sweetly that she was "doing a great job as queen" and was sorry if she jealous... Bonnie looked quite taken aback and mumbled, "Er... That's all right."
I wonder - if Kim would make those kind of statements more often, acting as though she couldn't care less, would Bonnie eventually stop acting so... Bonnie-ish? Will it not make a diff? .Or is the best way to deal with someone like Bonnie to fight back?
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Post by Alexlayer on Dec 9, 2007 20:10:10 GMT -5
You're probably right, KBP. What Bonnie is after through her attitude, in my opinion, is recognition. She lives with sisters who never treats her for someone worthy and a mother with whom, apparently, doesn't have much understanding. That's why she is so competitive. But you don't see her being agressive with just anyone. In "Queen Bebe", she was trying to do some work for some people, apparently in order to get some respect. And in "The Big Job", when Kim let her be the squad leader, she just couldn't be aggresive with Kim anymore.
I think the right way to deal with her is to value her.
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Post by Ot@ru on Dec 9, 2007 20:41:51 GMT -5
I don't know how to deal with people such as Bonnie so I think I'll ignore her...
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Post by mike on Dec 9, 2007 23:40:51 GMT -5
It's easy give her cash... but then again there comes another problem, where do you get the cash ;D anyway... yeah ignoring her would be best
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Post by frozenfire on Dec 10, 2007 6:17:27 GMT -5
^ LOL ;D
yeah, just ignore her...
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Post by >^The California Cat Girl^< on Dec 11, 2007 15:07:01 GMT -5
The best solution to dealing with an attention hog is to not give into their biggest drive: attention. Bonnie's drama stems from her need to be in the spotlight, and if she isn't given any heed towards adding to the cause, she can't back up her drama to gain the attention that's deprived of her to begin with.
Drama queens - drama= drama queen wannabe who can't achieve royal status ;D
Most times annoying people of that caliber are in it for the drama or attention, and the best way to deal with those types is to cut them off at the tap---just ignore them ;D ~Mara
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Post by Ashfangirl20 on Dec 11, 2007 15:42:15 GMT -5
I think I'd just ignore her if she treated me like Kim, or try to any ways. Its hard to be nice to some one who just treats you like crap.
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Post by Ot@ru on Dec 21, 2007 4:54:58 GMT -5
I think that's why Bonnie doesn't have any real friends...
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Post by Whisper from the Shadows on Dec 22, 2007 13:57:17 GMT -5
The best way to deal with Bonnie is to probably get her alone. Unless you are "somebody" according to the food chain, you should probably avoid her in public (at leasts initially).
A hug would do her wonders... just make sure no one else sees you do it or she'll skin you alive.
Patience is your friend when dealing with someone like Bonnie, but once you are in, and she trusts you, it would take an act of God himself to get her to give up your friendship.
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Post by Nutzkie on Dec 22, 2007 14:48:08 GMT -5
Then again, popping her one right in the nose would probably do the trick as well. (Especially if it's done in front of the whole school.)
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Post by Ashley Benlove on Dec 22, 2007 16:09:44 GMT -5
^^ Amen to that. I also would suggest spanking her like the brat she is.
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Post by hannah on Dec 22, 2007 18:39:43 GMT -5
i'd deck her like a ho on the street.
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Post by Whisper from the Shadows on Dec 22, 2007 19:25:34 GMT -5
^^ Amen to that. I also would suggest spanking her like the brat she is. Sorry, my mind hit the gutter. But for some reason I highly doubt she's into kink, not to mention, I doubt that it would do much besides get her angry at you (counter-productive in the long run). Am I the only one that was taught to at least try and be nice to people, even if they initially treat you like the dirt? Give them a second chance, the time to understand that you aren't "the enemy" and get to know them.
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Post by Ot@ru on Dec 23, 2007 4:09:40 GMT -5
Show her how bad is her attitude?
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Post by Ashley Benlove on Dec 23, 2007 10:24:56 GMT -5
^^ Amen to that. I also would suggest spanking her like the brat she is. Sorry, my mind hit the gutter. But for some reason I highly doubt she's into kink, not to mention, I doubt that it would do much besides get her angry at you (counter-productive in the long run). Am I the only one that was taught to at least try and be nice to people, even if they initially treat you like the dirt? Give them a second chance, the time to understand that you aren't "the enemy" and get to know them. I meant like when you spank a child who's bad? Before spanking was practically outlawed, that is. I wasn't being kinky, jeez. Because, honestly I think Bonnie needed a good spanking as a child. Actually, all kids do come to think of it. I was taught to be nice to people even if they are mean to me, but honestly it doesn't work. I've tried it. People are b*stard coated b*stards with b*stard filling to quote Dr. Cox from Scrubs.
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Post by lonestarr357 on Dec 23, 2007 11:09:01 GMT -5
I was taught to be nice to people even if they are mean to me, but honestly it doesn't work. I've tried it. People are b*stard coated b*stards with b*stard filling to quote Dr. Cox from Scrubs. So very true, esp. in Bonnie's case. Inflicting bodily harm on her seems a good solution (to say nothing of fun), but, sadly, one would have to deal with the consequences of such actions, and hitting women, no matter how Bonnie-like they may be, is a societal no-no. The best way to deal with her...is to ignore her. Life is way too short to put up with her kind of petty horsecrap. If she seeks you out just for the purpose of insulting you, just tell her so and be on your merry way. It might work, it might not, but, at the very least, you'll be secure in the knowledge that you took the high road...and that that girl will have to live with herself, warts and all, for the rest of her life. And that'll do just as much damage as a punch.
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Post by Whisper from the Shadows on Dec 25, 2007 23:08:07 GMT -5
Inflicting bodily harm on her seems a good solution (to say nothing of fun), but, sadly, one would have to deal with the consequences of such actions, and hitting women, no matter how Bonnie-like they may be, is a societal no-no. Not just a societal no-no, but one that will quickly raise the ire of most respectable men in the general vicinity (I would recommend running if I was near). This is the one thing that got me in more fights when I was in college than anything else, I just can't stand by when I see a woman getting hit/slapped/etc... It just isn't done, and if it is done, there should be immediate and brutal consequences. But I still fail to understand how inflicting bodily harm on her would be a good way to deal with her? If she actually attacked you... yeah, by all means defend yourself. But to initiate a physical fight over something as (quoting you guys) 'petty' as words is stooping well below the level she is holding in your eyes. Not to mention, attacking her physically will probably result in her opinion of you dropping even more, and therefore the verbal barbs will get more frequent and more potent. Upon meeting someone that is "Bonnie-like" the best bet is to shrug off the first few weeks of verbal assaults she will make at you. She's just trying to make sure you know she's the "alpha leader", once she realizes that you have no intention of going for the "throne" and makes the assumption that you are immune to her verbal attacks (meaning you can't let her think she's 'getting to you') she will do everything in her power to get you close. In her eyes, anyone who is strong enough to take her initial strike and walk away with a smile, yet has no interest in "de-throning" her is someone she wants beside/behind her. Once there, it's fairly simple to chip away at the emotional wall she has more than likely put up to protect herself from people that could possibly hurt her (and therefore ruin her by exposing some weakness).
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Post by rd on Dec 26, 2007 18:44:24 GMT -5
Call Judge DOOM and give her.... "THE DIP!!!"
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Post by eclogite on Dec 26, 2007 19:04:03 GMT -5
Outlast her. The best thing about high school is that it is a fairly short duration problem that is quickly left behind, by most of us, once one is done with it The only people I knew who found high school significant after we graduated were the sad handful who never did anything with their lives. Apply some patience and diplomacy and Bonnie becomes a non-problem after graduation. She might even become a tolerable human being once the high school bit has become overtaken by events (I know, a lot of people have a big investment in hating her). I've known several folks who actually turned out pretty well once the petty foolishness of high school was no longer applicable.
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Post by Whisper from the Shadows on Dec 27, 2007 15:49:31 GMT -5
Call Judge DOOM and give her.... "THE DIP!!!" That made me laugh, I haven't heard any references to "The Dip" in a long time. Thank you for that. Outlast her. The best thing about high school is that it is a fairly short duration problem that is quickly left behind, by most of us, once one is done with it The only people I knew who found high school significant after we graduated were the sad handful who never did anything with their lives. Apply some patience and diplomacy and Bonnie becomes a non-problem after graduation. She might even become a tolerable human being once the high school bit has become overtaken by events (I know, a lot of people have a big investment in hating her). I've known several folks who actually turned out pretty well once the petty foolishness of high school was no longer applicable. True, that works as well. I guess I was referring to short term solutions, when eclogite makes a good point. High School is only 4 years of your life, and only 9 months out of each year, it will be over faster than you can imagine. You can just ignore her till Graduation, then be on your merry way hoping never to see her again. Or, you can wait till after Graduation and see what the "real world" does to her. Chances are, she will chillax a lot after walking the stage. It's quite ironic to hear about people that couldn't stand each other in HS ending up going to college at the same place and started hanging out with each other for a familiar face, and are now good friends (or in some cases, in a relationship).
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