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Post by Forlong on Jun 20, 2005 21:28:50 GMT -5
In your experences, do best guy/girl friends end up getting to gether as often as they do in Disney shows?
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Post by Panther on Jun 20, 2005 21:37:59 GMT -5
NO. This Disney fad just plain sickens me becuase all of my friends are guys.
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Post by j on Jun 20, 2005 23:58:04 GMT -5
It's a romantic idea, but doesn't happen often enough in our fast paced lifestyles of today. It was much more common before the sexual revolution of the 60's and 70's. Communities were smaller and more tightly fit. People relied on each other more. Friendships between families were more tightly bound.
That all changed, of course. Now it's acceptable to go to a club, have a few drinks, and somehow impress somebody enough for a name and number written on your hand. This is hardly the standard for any long term relationship.
Can a relationship based on friendship happen today? Yes, but it is rare. Can a long lasting relationship happen starting with an emphasis on sexual attraction or energy? Yes, but again rare. Do I get a headache everytime I'm doing couple's relationship theapy and the first thing I hear is "We met at a bar." Yes, OFTEN!
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Post by molonuk on Jun 21, 2005 1:45:41 GMT -5
I wish it happened, to me, lol.
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Post by AgHorizonFilm on Jun 21, 2005 8:34:52 GMT -5
I also wish it was as true as Disney made it out to be, but unfortunately we don't live in this type of world. Although I think thats why we like shows like Kim Possible because it gives us hope of meeting that one special person.
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Post by darth vader 9000 on Jun 21, 2005 8:39:35 GMT -5
Yes like Austin Powers gave me hope about one day meeting someone who dus not care about the way I look
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Post by Nightspade on Jun 21, 2005 8:41:59 GMT -5
It never happens... I know.
curse the friend zone
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Post by JuPMod on Jun 21, 2005 8:42:52 GMT -5
As others had stated, it's very rare to have such a friendship like Kim and Ron's in the real world. I know from experience that children, when they grow up, tend to change in personality and they tend to slowly let go of old friendships and make new ones, especilly in high school.
Let's face it. KP is just a fictional show. If Kim and Ron were real, I doubt their friendship would have last past the freshman year of HS. How often would a cheerleader be best friends with the lower caste of the school? Sure, when I was in HS, some of the cheerleaders were friendly toward me, but we weren't friends. They tend to stick with their own and the higher caste section of the school student body.
So it have to be very rare for friendships to turn into something more, especially the kind shown between Kim and Ron. Such friendships like theirs have to be extremely rare or hardly non-existence in the current USA society (I can't speak for other countries, given it might be a possiblity elsewhere.).
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Post by AgHorizonFilm on Jun 21, 2005 8:45:50 GMT -5
We all wish though.
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Post by darth vader 9000 on Jun 21, 2005 8:50:23 GMT -5
Me too me too
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Post by calisc on Jun 21, 2005 9:08:24 GMT -5
Never happens.. I know from experience
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Post by Aers (That Writer Chick) on Jun 21, 2005 9:20:13 GMT -5
*scratches head* well, never say never... I met my husband online - not through the usual dating silliness, but through my fanfiction. He wrote me a nice fan letter offering feedback on one of my stories. I thanked him. He thanked me. Letters followed, moving up to phone calls and then international visits and the like. Of course he did finally admit he fell in love with my fictional character first and then me, but he figures he got a good two-for-one deal and I ain't complaining! coming up on our five year anniversary and been together since 93, so... nothing's impossible!
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Post by AvinashTyagi on Jun 21, 2005 9:56:45 GMT -5
I suppose it depends on the situation, as with most things in life there are no rules that are universal, culture, era, personality, events in peoples lives, chance, etc. all play a role in how things happen.
Remember chaos theory? I mean if Kim and Ron hadn't started going on missions together would they have stayed friends? Maybe they owe their relationship to a mistyped web address.
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Post by AgHorizonFilm on Jun 21, 2005 10:44:08 GMT -5
Oh that is so sweet, Aers. That is a great story. Make a fanfic with that. Calisc I give you my sympathies. My past girls as friends have not done so well either. Also, word of caution: Long Distance Relationships DO NOT WORK!
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Post by grasshoooper on Jun 21, 2005 11:02:26 GMT -5
It could happen.
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Post by drath vader 9000 on Jun 21, 2005 11:04:00 GMT -5
Yeah right...
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Post by calisc on Jun 21, 2005 11:16:56 GMT -5
Aers nice to see you found true love with someone but see.. We're you guys for years and years before you fell in love? surely you started liking each other at some point before you were good friends if you know what i mean..
As far as girls go, ive had a whole bunch of friends who are girls and things have and i wouldnt doubt if something happens with them but when it comes to best friends, people you know inside and out, i probably could name 2 girls which knew/know me like that .. one of which im no longer friends with because things got a little complicated ... I just dont think best friends can naturally progress to the love stage..., normal "aquantince" type friends, sure.. but when it comes to people who truly know you.. Its not like your in denial the whole time about your feelings like Disney shows portray , and you suddenly realise one day
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Post by AgHorizonFilm on Jun 21, 2005 11:31:53 GMT -5
You know it is kinda hard to thik of a close friend who is girl as beinga potential girlfriend. Like I know some girls from my church that to think of them romantically in any way just can't do it. Sometimes friends is just better for both parties.
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Post by Aers (That Writer Chick) on Jun 21, 2005 11:48:26 GMT -5
well... *insert creaking noise of old wooden rocking chair* you HAVE to be friends with anyone before getting romantically involved - because when all the lust is over with and you end up with the same person for hours and days and weeks and months you need more than just the lust to keep you going. it's all very nice and cute to be rolling around with someone, but is he/she going to be there when you get sick and are busy throwing up in the bathroom? Or if you get cancer? Or if you lose a family member and be there to comfort you? if you're friends first, it makes everything else work a whole lot better than just being in lust... and makes it last! old broad out...
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Post by AgHorizonFilm on Jun 21, 2005 13:04:45 GMT -5
Now thats the truth, and coming from one with expereince right there.
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