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Post by ItzAlwaysMelaBee on Aug 26, 2008 1:46:40 GMT -5
Hey guys.. its mel! Well.. I'm starting my first year in High School...I'm pretty nervous...it's a big school over 2000 students...o gosh...pretty scared a little..but I can't wait to see what it looks like... Advice?
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Post by Ashley Benlove on Aug 26, 2008 13:48:15 GMT -5
Hi, Mel!
Starting high school is one of the biggest events in a young person's life. And one of the scariest. I started high school about 6 years ago, last week. I am going into my 3rd year of college tomorrow, so high school is far behind me.
But, my high school was big like yours; we had like 2500 students. I had 450 kids in my graduating class. The only honest to God good advise I can give you is this: be yourself, don't care what others think, and work hard in your studies.
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Post by Darth Griffin on Aug 26, 2008 14:00:49 GMT -5
I remember how terrifying my first year of high school was. I don't know how many students were in my school, but it was big. A larger high school is meant to be terrifying, that is how the game is played. The fear will pass in a week or two. if that.
remember, Outside of the classroom, high school is just one big game of psychological warfare. Don't give in. Be yourself, not someone everyone else wants you to be. My advice for the first day is try to get an impression of your fellow students, everyone in your class.
Inside the classroom, work hard and do your best, no one can ask for anything more than that
oh and remember that not every person is a total frakker, there are plenty of nice people inside and I'm betting that many of them (especially the new ones) are just as scared.
Try and make a friend. That always helps
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Post by lovethebeardkevin on Aug 26, 2008 15:57:47 GMT -5
I don't go to a big school high school for me is about 500 people lol like I told you in the pm I slipped and fell my first day but just join a club or something and get to know people let everyone know who you are don't be scared itl be cake in a few weeks once you get into the swing of things!!! Good luck Mel!!! Jess
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Post by Baroque on Aug 27, 2008 12:02:41 GMT -5
My advice: don't try to be yourself at all cost. Why? Because just a few people will accept you like that, the rest's going to point at you and laugh manically. If that's what you want, well, do it. If you want to get through Highschool in an accaptable way, be how most of the others are in the first weeks or months, until you found people that you can call friends. Then you can start to get more and more of your true person out. Except when there are already people that seem to swing the way you do...well, it's complicated. But I'd never EVER advise you to completely be yourself. Whoever says that is an idiot.
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Post by eclogite on Aug 27, 2008 14:59:27 GMT -5
Look on the bright side, it will all be over in 3 years and you can move on to something else, after which high school will become incredibly trivial.
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Post by Donne on Aug 27, 2008 16:31:09 GMT -5
My advice: don't try to be yourself at all cost. Why? Because just a few people will accept you like that, the rest's going to point at you and laugh manically. If that's what you want, well, do it. If you want to get through Highschool in an accaptable way, be how most of the others are in the first weeks or months, until you found people that you can call friends. Then you can start to get more and more of your true person out. Except when there are already people that seem to swing the way you do...well, it's complicated. But I'd never EVER advise you to completely be yourself. Whoever says that is an idiot. If you spend your life (or your high school career) trying to please everybody, you'll please nobody and wind up unhappy with yourself, even if you find a group of similarly charading people that you call "friends".
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Post by lovethebeardkevin on Aug 27, 2008 17:31:03 GMT -5
I agree with donteatacowman be yourself!!!it really sucks when people accept the fake you and you have to play this charade all of the time. I made that mistake in 7th grade and it totally sucked and a lost a true friend because of it. Were friends again now though. Find yourself some great friends with similarities to the real you heck find some kp fans!!! Well if I went to your school I would definatly be your bestie!!!
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Post by Tenkan on Aug 27, 2008 18:28:05 GMT -5
Statement: I agree to every post that was posted here. Be yourself, and do not try to be someone you are not.
Commentary: When I was a freshman, in a new school, I was shaky all over, but in two weeks I got used to the friendly atmosphere after I got to know some of the fellow students, who are now friends of mine.
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Post by tidus on Aug 27, 2008 18:47:40 GMT -5
be yourself is too cliche, its over done, but guess what, it's true...although if at some points you aren't thats not so bad. Depending on what you want to do, study hard or party hard, thats all up to you.
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Post by ItzAlwaysMelaBee on Aug 29, 2008 23:45:52 GMT -5
....I feel better now.. This tuesday, I'm going to this school name, "Annex".. It's for students who took a Summer Program( Display name long ago said: Off to Summer program..) That's why I went to school in July, got my 2 extra credits, got my blue card, got my program card( I still don't get why we have to pay $1 for that thing ), and that's why I going to the Annex..wasn't the school I wanted to go..but, school administrators are so tricky..the thing is.,. I was randomly chosen to go there...but, it's ok... I go there for a year..then I go back to my school John Adams in 10th grade... If I have all 44 credits by then.. I don't have to go through all 4 years... I graduate quicker and go to college(at least that's what my dad told me when he was talking to the principle)... Maybe I should be myself more..... But, I often get too shy...Some of the girls at my school look like they want to beat me up...cus I short.I'm not that short,ya know.... Maybe I should be careful around students I make friends with?
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Post by Baroque on Aug 30, 2008 3:00:06 GMT -5
If you spend your life (or your high school career) trying to please everybody, you'll please nobody and wind up unhappy with yourself, even if you find a group of similarly charading people that you call "friends". I didn't say that you should be everyones slave, but to be (more) like the others. Best would be to an extend where you're still comfortable with it and live through the first weeks. If you listen to all the people and actually be yourself you're in for a lot of problems. NO ONE is him-/herself, they ALWAYS keep parts of them (their personality) hidden because they know it isn't the brightest idea to show these sides of them. But...let's say there's a girl with KP stickers on her notepad. In that case you shouldn't be like the others and start making jokes or ask "You really like THAT?". Well...I think it's pretty obvious how to react here. Hm...go with whatever you like, my experiences tell me it's a bad idea to be yourself.
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Post by Donne on Aug 30, 2008 11:44:59 GMT -5
If you spend your life (or your high school career) trying to please everybody, you'll please nobody and wind up unhappy with yourself, even if you find a group of similarly charading people that you call "friends". I didn't say that you should be everyones slave, but to be (more) like the others. Best would be to an extend where you're still comfortable with it and live through the first weeks. If you listen to all the people and actually be yourself you're in for a lot of problems. NO ONE is him-/herself, they ALWAYS keep parts of them (their personality) hidden because they know it isn't the brightest idea to show these sides of them. But...let's say there's a girl with KP stickers on her notepad. In that case you shouldn't be like the others and start making jokes or ask "You really like THAT?". Well...I think it's pretty obvious how to react here. Hm...go with whatever you like, my experiences tell me it's a bad idea to be yourself. In my experience, trying to be like others and not yourself only makes you unhappy.
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Post by Fusion Fox on Aug 30, 2008 12:00:26 GMT -5
It depends what you mean by 'be yourself'. If you mean 'don't change anything about yourself' then that's just silly. Part of going to school is meeting new people and forming who you are. If I look back at who I was 5 years ago then I just kinda laugh at how different I was. I like the person I am now, and that person was made by meeting the friends I did and being introduced to new things and changing who I am. What is important is to only make the changes you want to make. You can be an individual without having to be completely different from everybody else. Have your own opinions that you can stick to, but be open to new things too. Contradictions ahoy
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Post by Donne on Aug 30, 2008 12:10:46 GMT -5
It depends what you mean by 'be yourself'. If you mean 'don't change anything about yourself' then that's just silly. Part of going to school is meeting new people and forming who you are. If I look back at who I was 5 years ago then I just kinda laugh at how different I was. I like the person I am now, and that person was made by meeting the friends I did and being introduced to new things and changing who I am. What is important is to only make the changes you want to make. You can be an individual without having to be completely different from everybody else. Have your own opinions that you can stick to, but be open to new things too. Contradictions ahoy True words; I wasn't trying to say to not be open, just don't let others' opinions about you dominate your behavior.
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Post by Ashley Benlove on Aug 30, 2008 14:59:16 GMT -5
It depends what you mean by 'be yourself'. If you mean 'don't change anything about yourself' then that's just silly. Part of going to school is meeting new people and forming who you are. If I look back at who I was 5 years ago then I just kinda laugh at how different I was. I like the person I am now, and that person was made by meeting the friends I did and being introduced to new things and changing who I am. What is important is to only make the changes you want to make. You can be an individual without having to be completely different from everybody else. Have your own opinions that you can stick to, but be open to new things too. Most of this is kind of a reply to Fusion's post but I think there's some sound advise in it as well...When I, myself, said "be yourself" I didn't mean, "don't change anything about yourself, period." I meant, be the person you are. If you're a cantankerous old prune, be that person. Don't hide it. If you're a happy teenage girl who loves Jonas Brothers, be that. If you hide who you are, I think it sort of shows something more deeply troubling... that you don't like yourself. And that's a big problem. I do agree and believe that a part of growing up is changing. Constant change. High school (and by some extension, college/university) is a very important time. You start to discover yourself. And this is a good thing. I personally am not the person I was a year ago, or 18 months ago. Looking back at myself about 5 years ago, I am radically different (of course, five years ago, I was just about to discover KP). Change is good, it leads to growth, wisdom, and happiness, as Yori said in Oh No! Yono!And like what the others have said, don't let others' opinions dominate your behavior. You should do what you feel is right.
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Post by lovethebeardkevin on Aug 30, 2008 15:17:40 GMT -5
If the girls there are looking to want to beat you up its just because theyr insecure because they think your really pretty and a threat at least that's what has happened at my school if you encounter bullies or whatever you want to call them just be nice to them if one drops their books help them pick them up that happened to me in 5th grade this girl who was really mean to me dropped her stuff I helped her pick it up and then we became friends lol I know its probably not that easy in high school I haven't changed schools ever so I don't know what its like to be new when there are already clicks and stuff but just include yourself and if it doesn't work for one click go to another good luck Tuesday!!!
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Post by Ashley Benlove on Aug 30, 2008 22:31:56 GMT -5
This may not be very helpful, but bullies tend to think differently than normal people, actually. At least from a psychological perspective. Here's how....
Let's say I was to step on your foot (by accident). What's the appropriate response? To find out why I stepped on your foot. A bully wouldn't bother finding out why I stepped on their foot. They'd just step on my foot or worse. Bullies tend to think that you did it on purpose. It's like they are looking for a fight, I guess. But, it's not their fault, I suppose. It's something in their brain, actually. So, yeah, I would advise to show some compassion for bullies, as hard as that may seem.
Also, it would be a good idea to be willing to talk to various people. I, myself am terribly shy in real life, but I was able to strike up a conversation on Friday with a girl in one of my classes. I'm not the biggest advocate of working in groups in school (in fact I hate it), but that's one of the best ways to meet new people. Having to work with them.
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Post by ItzAlwaysMelaBee on Sept 2, 2008 16:59:44 GMT -5
ok.. First day...it was good actually...the most nicest teacher I have was for Global Studies(2) (Jumpstart version)... the teachers are extremly nice..and very funny..although my math teacher looks like she hasn't smile in decades.. lol but good actully..full of paper work for my parents to sign.. I actually saw some of my old friends ..and old enemies from elementry...don't have them in my class....I actually made like....5 friends so far...I mean its the first day..this teacher made us play this memory game to know all the students... We had to memorize names by orders...it was a toughie...but got it!
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Post by Donne on Sept 3, 2008 17:17:23 GMT -5
ok.. First day...it was good actually...the most nicest teacher I have was for Global Studies(2) (Jumpstart version)... the teachers are extremly nice..and very funny..although my math teacher looks like she hasn't smile in decades.. lol but good actully..full of paper work for my parents to sign.. I actually saw some of my old friends ..and old enemies from elementry...don't have them in my class....I actually made like....5 friends so far...I mean its the first day..this teacher made us play this memory game to know all the students... We had to memorize names by orders...it was a toughie...but got it! See? Good start for a hopefully good year!
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