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Post by Loser7 on Aug 20, 2007 21:46:15 GMT -5
Yea, my friend still hasn't told her mom. I feel so bad cos she's so stressed about it. She's going to let her mom tell her dad cos she has a really bad relationship with her dad.
Of course, her sister knew before any of us, lol.
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Post by ArtsandCrafts on Aug 20, 2007 22:05:09 GMT -5
Nabu, you are very cool, did you know that?
I go to a (High school) school for the arts, so being eccentic is expected. I am not certain why having a non-hetero sexuality counts as "eccentric", but it does.
There a quite a few people who attend who are gay, it has pretty much become a common thing. Quite a few of the people I know are gay or bi, and it never really bothered me.
I'd just be perfectly honest. Just tell her that you surpport her (And do so, when she needs you to.) but also tell her that since this is new to you, if you say anything that seems derrogatory or makes her uncomfortable, she should just tell you so that you know and can make sure that she is aware that you don't want to insult her in any way.
I know this advice seems very much like something out of an after school special, but it works.
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Post by Sarah Ashley T. on Aug 20, 2007 22:29:20 GMT -5
I have had tons of friends who came out, and nothing changed =) I was like, "Cool." And things moved on from there x) Maybe it's just me, but I don't see the big deal...
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Post by Loser7 on Aug 21, 2007 0:14:20 GMT -5
^^I just REALLY didn't see it coming. It caught me really off guard and when her and my other friend called me they said they had something important to tell me, and were very secretive about it. I had concocted a bunch of worst case scenarios like a friend had commited suicide, or they wanted to confront me about something I hate being talked to about (not gonna go there, lol), or just something drastic. It got me kind of tense cos I had my entire shift to mull it over at work until I could talk to them.
I was really relieved when she told me she was just gay, but I was a little p.issed that they made me think it was something scary, lol. I guess I just got uptight cos my mind gets carried away when I worry.
and btw Nabu, I don't like the word tolerate either for these types of scenarios
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Post by Sarah Ashley T. on Aug 21, 2007 1:59:53 GMT -5
Weeellll.... I guess what's done is done. I hope you guys cna just be friends like you always have been =)
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Post by Naked Mole Rat on Aug 21, 2007 10:34:54 GMT -5
I'm basically a f-- hag, myself, but I would NEVER say the word. Whyever not? We needs our hags hun .... they keep us sane. I have four!
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Post by Ashley Benlove on Aug 21, 2007 11:30:28 GMT -5
I would not feel comfortable saying f--. Even if I hang out with gay guys. I mean, I would never say the n word even if i hang out with black people.
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Post by nabusan on Aug 21, 2007 12:46:51 GMT -5
Haha yeah - I suppose I do kinda cringe when I hear either the 'n' or the 'f' words ^^
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Post by hannah on Aug 21, 2007 17:12:38 GMT -5
it's probably been said, but the best thing you can do for her is let her know that you have her support. i imagine that coming out to her parents will be harder for her than coming out to her friends, so i'm sure that she will really appreciate the emotional backup from you and her friends.
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