Does it REALLY happen?

[Tara]

kinda like when my sisters boyfriend cheated on her I almost tried to kill him my sister said I got to mad do u think ...............ok maybe I did but don't blame me blame him!

[milly123]

man! your sister must feel stressed

[bDd]

It never happens... I know. And that's a good thing, actually. You can't possibly like a best friend, cos a best friend's the furthest you can go with a friend. Only lovers reach that level, and that would mean Kim and Ron had been meant to like each other as lovers ever since Pre-K, just that they got too used to each other that they treated each other as best friends until they finally realised how they were meant to be in StD. We all gotta thank Eric now, since it was because of him that Ron found out his true feelings for Kim.
If Forlong reads this, that marks my fitness to post at the 'Re-evaluation of K/R's feelings' board. Yahoo!

[Spamwise]

You never can't tell if it can really happen in real life. I just explained what I think. I know it's just a coincedence what happened to my friend coz it happen last December after Christmas. I'm not really taking side if it can really happen or not but you never really can't tell coz it's decided by them.

[blak]

Well...sometimes it happens...SOMETIMES...

[Winterfrost]

I doubt it. It's really rare, if ever happens.
I despite relationships in today's society. I can't believe how shallow it is compared to what I believe in!

I'm thinking: to understand each other so much and accept that they love each other is the purest and truest form of love, not just some animal magnetism.....

I agree with what bDd said.

[A-Rad]

Thats that........

[cloudmonet]

It never happens... I know. And that's a good thing, actually. You can't possibly like a best friend, cos a best friend's the furthest you can go with a friend. Only lovers reach that level, and that would mean Kim and Ron had been meant to like each other as lovers ever since Pre-K, just that they got too used to each other that they treated each other as best friends until they finally realised how they were meant to be in StD. We all gotta thank Eric now, since it was because of him that Ron found out his true feelings for Kim.
If Forlong reads this, that marks my fitness to post at the 'Re-evaluation of K/R's feelings' board. Yahoo!

I never knew you had to pass a fitness test to post in that thread!

There are (I would guess) considerable cultural differences about romance and friendship between places like Singapore and Kuwait and, say, America or England, and even within America, noticeable differences between Kansas and California.

"We're friends," and "We're a couple," are nothing more than agreements, overt or implied, between the two people in question, and agreements can be changed or renegotiated. It really is that simple. It is on the whole easier to go from friends to couple than from couple back to friends, because the strong emotions of being a couple are often painful to turn off. This explains why many friends are reluctant to try being a couple.

[A-Rad]

I still say it does not happen

[blak]

It happens, trust me. My friend has a girlfriend...who was his best friend in the past.

[milly123]

.........................*claps in an un noticed way*......

[taechunsa]

Okay, I have to comment on this one.

For all of you that are saying that it never happens, well, you are incorrect.

I am living proof of that.

I have known my wife for as long as I can remember. My parents told me once that we met in preschool, which isn’t that big of a deal since I grew up in a small town and met a lot of my classmates in preschool. We were friends in grade school, not best friends because at that age girls have cooties . (In retrospect I guess it should have been evident that we would fall in love since she always played Princess Leia to my Han Solo, but that was before Return of the Jedi was released so I guess I can be forgiven.)

In Middle School we ended up in the same homeroom and that is when we became good friends. As the years passed our friendship grew into the category of best friends. There was actually a small group of us (three girls and two boys) that did nearly everything together.

Our friendship continued into high school, and from what my best guy friend once told me it was pretty clear that we were a little bit closer then the rest.

Every summer my hometown has a big festival called Good Old Days and there is a dance. The summer before my Junior year neither of us were dating anyone and neither of us felt like doing the whole look for a date junk so we decided to go to the dance together. After that neither of us ever dated anyone else ever again. It wasn’t anything dramatic like in KP where we shared a kiss and it all just became clear, but something changed at that dance and we just started dating each other.

We got engaged sometime during my sophomore year of college (Don’t tell my wife that I don’t remember exactly when. Women get touchy about that sort of thing But I do remember the burnt pancakes for breakfast. Bet you’ve never seen that in a fanfic. ) We married the following winter, and will celebrate our eleventh anniversary this December.


However, I have come to realize that my wife and I are the rarity. I have seen a lot more friends turned romantic fail then I have ever seen last.

And while I still keep in touch with my other two girl best friends I doubt that if we had tried the same thing that it would have worked out. In fact, I did try it with one of them and was shot down pretty quickly. Odd that she is the one I am still the closest with. So I guess that I am also the oddity in that a failed romantic endeavor between friends doesn’t have to end the friendship. (I had never thought of that before just now.)

So, there is my experience with friends turned lovers.

[milly123]

....................what dose that have to do whith this

[taechunsa]

milly123 said:

....................what dose that have to do whith this

If you are referring to my post, then everything.

The original question posed was:

forlong said:

In your experences, do best guy/girl friends end up getting to gether as often as they do in Disney shows?

So, in my experience I posted that it does and can happen becuase it happened to me (this in response to the most recent "it never happens" posts).

I then followed my experience with a quick comment on the likelyhood and frequency of it happening, in my experience.

Does that answer your question?

[cloudmonet]

This is about as close to what happened to Kim and Ron as anybody can possibly want! Even to going to a dance junior year of high school as friends (which Kim and Ron might have done in Erik's absence) and coming out a couple. Wow. So, there we are, question definitively answered by a member. Yes, it really happens. How often is another question, but the biographies in obituaries suggest it at least used to be not rare.

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And for those of you who've never seen pancakes in a fanfic, I offer this bit from "Drakken's Trial"--

www.carlmillerpoems.com/603drakkenstrial.html

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Drakken hummed a maudlin tune while pouring pancake batter, which sizzled and sputtered as it hit the hot cooking oil on the griddle.

“Not pancakes and cocoa-moo again!” complained Shego’s voice from the other room. “Oh no, I’m gonna be sick.” Incredibly disgusting noises came from the bathroom, followed by a toilet flushing. A disheveled Shego wearing green and black pajamas and a robe, her usually greenish skin a sickly pink, staggered into the living room, flopped on the couch, and turned on the television. “No breakfast for me, Dr. D.,” she said.

Drakken sighed and flipped his pancakes.

A bit later, he sat beside Shego on the couch.

“What happens when the food’s gone?” she asked. “Do you trust Lars and Hank Perkins to bring us more? We’re not in command anymore. We’re so out of the loop, we can’t even see the loop from here. You don’t even have functioning lab equipment.”

“Ah, that’s where you’re wrong, Shego!”

Her face brightened up. “A rant! You’re going to do a rant! It’s been so long since I’ve heard one. Okay, what are you gonna do?”

“My nanomanipulator is fully operational! I can invent and build— really small stuff.”

“Really small stuff?” Shego asked, her voice dropping all enthusiasm.

[taechunsa]

I think that it is a small town thing. With larger cities there is a lot more chance of not already being friendly with the people that you date.

I knew nearly everyone in my class since Kindergarten and thus if I were to end up marrying nearly any of them I would have ended up marrying a friend. Not a best friend but a friend. This is probably why it was more common in the past also.

With small communities the people that you grow up playing with are generally the ones that you date and might end up marrying. This might also be why Disney does it so often. It is a link to "the good old days" when communities were smaller and neighbors were closer.

[bDd]

cloudmonet said:

It never happens... I know. And that's a good thing, actually. You can't possibly like a best friend, cos a best friend's the furthest you can go with a friend. Only lovers reach that level, and that would mean Kim and Ron had been meant to like each other as lovers ever since Pre-K, just that they got too used to each other that they treated each other as best friends until they finally realised how they were meant to be in StD. We all gotta thank Eric now, since it was because of him that Ron found out his true feelings for Kim.
If Forlong reads this, that marks my fitness to post at the 'Re-evaluation of K/R's feelings' board. Yahoo!

I never knew you had to pass a fitness test to post in that thread!

There are (I would guess) considerable cultural differences about romance and friendship between places like Singapore and Kuwait and, say, America or England, and even within America, noticeable differences between Kansas and California.

"We're friends," and "We're a couple," are nothing more than agreements, overt or implied, between the two people in question, and agreements can be changed or renegotiated. It really is that simple. It is on the whole easier to go from friends to couple than from couple back to friends, because the strong emotions of being a couple are often painful to turn off. This explains why many friends are reluctant to try being a couple.

Words of wisdom, Mr. Monet!

[milly123]

now I get it ;D

[jmt2005791]

then that explains way i'm afraid of getting in a relationship

[Winterfrost]

Wow great stories! I wish I have that kind of relationship.................if any at all.

Nice touch on the good old days. I kind of was brought up with that kind of values even while growing up in the city. In big cities neighborhoods are huge and we're not too close to each other (heck even some declarations of unfriendliness can be seen).

That and probably the fact that I spend my pre-k and elementary years in all-boys schools. I never had any relationships at all so my comments are probably not useful on the topic.